I was doing my friend's hair today...loc maintenance...it usually takes about 3 hours from start to finish. I realized today that he and I no longer had a brother/sister relationship.
He was, and still is, good friends with my ex-boyfriend and when my ex and I called it quits, he picked his side.
When I had to think hard to try to start a conversation with him, only to get a 1- or 2-word reply, I knew. That this guy, I once thought of as a brother, is now more like an associate...not even a friend.
Sad thing is, I remember the reconciliation that we went through a year after his friend and I called it quits...we argued and fussed and got to bottom of the issue, promising that nothing had changed.
So now, when we see each other we speak, and ask the non-essential questions like, how have you been? How's work/school? And so on.
But is that really friendship? I do that whenever, I run into clients from my job.
Its unfortunate to say, even though I still love him and will call him friend, the reality of the situation is...
that sometimes, this time, things do change.
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Who is Fharllie?
Fharllie, born in Selma, AL and raised in Jacksonville, FL, is a mass communications, public relations and advertising focus, student at Savannah State University. She has 10 years expeience in retail sales. Fharllie also has several years experience in public relations consulting and management. Fharllie plans to graduate from SSU with a Bachelor of Arts in Mass Communications in December 2010. After graduation, Fharllie plans to enter into the fashion field and work toward blending her training in public relations with fashion. Although, this will be a new path for Fharllie, she is hopeful and dedicated to work effectively toward success.
Workshops I Attended
During the Press Institute, I was able to attend a number of workshops that focused on how new media effects Public Relations and Advertising. Although, I attended all of the public relations and advertising workshops, I chose three workshops that I enjoyed the most. The three workshop that I have selected to write a synopsis of are: The Future of Advertising: New Media, New Clients, and New Customers; Effective Social Media Strategies in Public Relations; and The Revolutionizing Advertising Agencies with New Media.
The Future of Advertising: New Media, New Clients, and New Customers, facilitated by Dr. Juliana Trammel, Jacqueline Allen-Settles, and LaFreda Hendley, informed students about the opportunities that are available for them to use to market themselves, build their portfolios, and take on new clients. Students were admonished to learn how to build websites, and advertise on the web. Attendees learned that combining new media technology skills with what students learn in the classroom will give students selling power.
In Effective Social Media Strategies in Public Relations, facilitated by LaFreda Hendley and Rahshiem Wright, students learned the value of knowing their client better than the client knows himself. Because of the age of technology, it is much easier to obtain information about companies and potential clients. A lot of the leg work of research has been reduced because of the internet. One can research a company’s history, clientele, service record, etc, online, and develop a proposal to present to the business owner, and potentially gain a new client. The key is to be tenacious, professional, and put out excellent work.
The Revolutionizing Advertising Agencies with New Media workshop facilitated by LaFreda Hendley, allowed students to become involved and learn in an interactive setting. Students became an advertising agency, and were able to experience what the branding, imaging, and advertising for a company’s product line. This workshop provided students with insight on which actual steps should be taken, and in what order those steps should be taken in, when developing a real-life advertising campaign with a budget. This workshop was a defining workshop for students, it either let students know that public relations and advertising is the focus area for them, or if they should rethink their desire to enter the field.
In Effective Social Media Strategies in Public Relations, facilitated by LaFreda Hendley and Rahshiem Wright, students learned the value of knowing their client better than the client knows himself. Because of the age of technology, it is much easier to obtain information about companies and potential clients. A lot of the leg work of research has been reduced because of the internet. One can research a company’s history, clientele, service record, etc, online, and develop a proposal to present to the business owner, and potentially gain a new client. The key is to be tenacious, professional, and put out excellent work.
The Revolutionizing Advertising Agencies with New Media workshop facilitated by LaFreda Hendley, allowed students to become involved and learn in an interactive setting. Students became an advertising agency, and were able to experience what the branding, imaging, and advertising for a company’s product line. This workshop provided students with insight on which actual steps should be taken, and in what order those steps should be taken in, when developing a real-life advertising campaign with a budget. This workshop was a defining workshop for students, it either let students know that public relations and advertising is the focus area for them, or if they should rethink their desire to enter the field.
The 59th Annual Southern Regional Press Institute
Each year Savannah State University’s Mass Communications Department hosts The Southern Regional Press Institute, a 2-day conference, that provides students with the opportunity to attend workshops facilitated by industry professionals, learn from, and network with those persons for further insight about what it takes to be successful in the communications industry. Although students are free to attend workshops of their choice, many students choose to attend workshops that are related to their concentration.
This year's conference, "Investigative Reporting: Utilizing New Media," took place on February 25-26, in John F. Kennedy Fine Arts Building at Savannah State University.
The opening session speaker, Susan Catron, Savannah Morning News Executive Editor, dispelled a number of new opportunities available for people interested in the field of communications to break into. New media was heard in nearly each workshop as facilitators informed, persuaded and taught attendees about what they should expect from the industry.
The hustle and bustle heard in the hallways, the distribution of business cards, along with the clipped conversations between students and workshop leaders, was heard each day from nearly 9 in the morning until 5 in the afternoon.
At the conference luncheon, Betty Baye, a columnist at the Louisville - Courier Journal (Louisville, Kentucky), spoke to students, faculty, staff, and guests, admonishing them to find their calling and walk it out. With her words, Baye encouraged listeners to work whatever gift they have, and build on the natural talent by keeping a book in hand and a mind that is always in pursuit of learning something new, especially with the coming age of new media. Being proud and humbled by where she came from, Baye reminded students to never forget their struggle to become successful, in their talent; the struggle will make one appreciate the success even more.
With all of the professional/student involvement with the Southern Regional Press Institute, the 2-day conference only scratches the surface of what students will contend with upon entering the work field.
Once the conference ends, it is just as important as attending the conference to begin with. Now, students should follow up with the contacts they made at the conference with a phone call or e-mail. Networking does not end with the conference. Whether it is sending an e-mail every so often, or placing a phone call every few months just to touch bases with that professional, make the connection last. Students should ask professionals whether they are willing to review and critique work for their portfolio, to better their work and craft as much as possible.
Remember, some of what is in the books was industry standard years ago, with new media, industry standard is updating and changing more quickly than ever before, so students should prepare themselves now for the door that technology will open for them next.
This year's conference, "Investigative Reporting: Utilizing New Media," took place on February 25-26, in John F. Kennedy Fine Arts Building at Savannah State University.
The opening session speaker, Susan Catron, Savannah Morning News Executive Editor, dispelled a number of new opportunities available for people interested in the field of communications to break into. New media was heard in nearly each workshop as facilitators informed, persuaded and taught attendees about what they should expect from the industry.
The hustle and bustle heard in the hallways, the distribution of business cards, along with the clipped conversations between students and workshop leaders, was heard each day from nearly 9 in the morning until 5 in the afternoon.
With all of the professional/student involvement with the Southern Regional Press Institute, the 2-day conference only scratches the surface of what students will contend with upon entering the work field.
Once the conference ends, it is just as important as attending the conference to begin with. Now, students should follow up with the contacts they made at the conference with a phone call or e-mail. Networking does not end with the conference. Whether it is sending an e-mail every so often, or placing a phone call every few months just to touch bases with that professional, make the connection last. Students should ask professionals whether they are willing to review and critique work for their portfolio, to better their work and craft as much as possible.
Remember, some of what is in the books was industry standard years ago, with new media, industry standard is updating and changing more quickly than ever before, so students should prepare themselves now for the door that technology will open for them next.
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
it doesn't take too much
a pat on the back
a hug every now and then
a phone call
a kind gesture
open the door for me
hold my hand
wrap me in your arms
a kiss on the shoulder
fresh coffee or tea in the morning
make me feel you even when you're miles away
the scent of your cologne
the look you give me when I make you mad
the smile you rock when I've made you proud
it doesn't take much to make me smile,
make me feel like you're on my side...
like its just me and you against the world
its just me and you in this fight,
no matter how we may argue, fuss, or fight
remember its not how much money you make
what kind of car you drive
or how many bedrooms you have in your house
its all about how you love me with your heart
a hug every now and then
a phone call
a kind gesture
open the door for me
hold my hand
wrap me in your arms
a kiss on the shoulder
fresh coffee or tea in the morning
make me feel you even when you're miles away
the scent of your cologne
the look you give me when I make you mad
the smile you rock when I've made you proud
it doesn't take much to make me smile,
make me feel like you're on my side...
like its just me and you against the world
its just me and you in this fight,
no matter how we may argue, fuss, or fight
remember its not how much money you make
what kind of car you drive
or how many bedrooms you have in your house
its all about how you love me with your heart
Sunday, January 31, 2010
Dear God
Dear God,
It's been a while.
I know I have to do better.
I know you sent your Son to die for my sins.
I am gonna do better (for real this time)
*sigh*
I'm tired God.
I need your help to make it through this.
I already know failure is around the corner if I try to carry this one alone.
I need your strength for this journey.
I ain't strong or smart enough.
I mean, you know my heart.
You know whats in there, right?
Well for starters, this is my last year in school.
I was hoping that it would be my last semester but I messed that up.
So, I'm taking 18 hours, plus a 15 hour/week internship, plus 25 hours/week at the job.
Oh and did I mention, time for home work and life.
Yea, I'm super mad at myself for this one.
I need your help.
I don't like one of my professors.
And I don't mean I don't like onions but I'll eat them occasionally.
I mean I don't like her like I don't like liver.
I don't even like to see her.
Thats how much she gets on my nerves.
I really need you to help me.
Because she is standing in between me and my degree.
I have to learn to deal with her.
I need to learn to at least respect her.
(Honestly, I have no respect for her)
Clearly, I have given her too much power in my life for me to feel the way I do.
My car isn't working right again.
Its running though
So I'm gonna keep driving it.
I'm gonna take it to the shop tomorrow.
Please don't let it cost too much to fix!!!
Do you even hear my prayers anymore?
I don't blame you if you don't.
Its not like I talk to you on a regular basis.
I hope you hear me this time though.
You see, its my uncle.
I got news about his health and it doesn't look so good.
The doctors say that its lung cancer that has metastasized to his lymph nodes and his brain.
The doctors say that there is nothing they can do except give him chemo and pain meds to ease his pain.
I just wanted to see if thats what you have to say about him.
I mean, I know everyone has to pass on at some point.
But, its just doesn't seem fair.
He just had another son.
I mean, his son isn't even 2 years old yet.
I know people say not to question you because you don't make mistakes.
I get that.
Really.
I do.
But do you think you can take another look at his situation.
Maybe there's another option.
I don't know what I'm saying.
I don't want him to be in pain
Can you give a doctor a divine idea of a new treatment?
Maybe?
I don't know.
I really wish I could get in my car, or on a plane or something
and go to Selma, Alabama and go spend a week with him.
I don't even get to see him much any more.
*sigh*
Ok, I'm going to end it here.
I know everyone else is trying to talk to you too.
Even though it may not seem like it,
I do love you and recognize you as God.
In the words of my granny, I know who butters my bread...LOL
It's been a while.
I know I have to do better.
I know you sent your Son to die for my sins.
I am gonna do better (for real this time)
*sigh*
I'm tired God.
I need your help to make it through this.
I already know failure is around the corner if I try to carry this one alone.
I need your strength for this journey.
I ain't strong or smart enough.
I mean, you know my heart.
You know whats in there, right?
Well for starters, this is my last year in school.
I was hoping that it would be my last semester but I messed that up.
So, I'm taking 18 hours, plus a 15 hour/week internship, plus 25 hours/week at the job.
Oh and did I mention, time for home work and life.
Yea, I'm super mad at myself for this one.
I need your help.
I don't like one of my professors.
And I don't mean I don't like onions but I'll eat them occasionally.
I mean I don't like her like I don't like liver.
I don't even like to see her.
Thats how much she gets on my nerves.
I really need you to help me.
Because she is standing in between me and my degree.
I have to learn to deal with her.
I need to learn to at least respect her.
(Honestly, I have no respect for her)
Clearly, I have given her too much power in my life for me to feel the way I do.
My car isn't working right again.
Its running though
So I'm gonna keep driving it.
I'm gonna take it to the shop tomorrow.
Please don't let it cost too much to fix!!!
Do you even hear my prayers anymore?
I don't blame you if you don't.
Its not like I talk to you on a regular basis.
I hope you hear me this time though.
You see, its my uncle.
I got news about his health and it doesn't look so good.
The doctors say that its lung cancer that has metastasized to his lymph nodes and his brain.
The doctors say that there is nothing they can do except give him chemo and pain meds to ease his pain.
I just wanted to see if thats what you have to say about him.
I mean, I know everyone has to pass on at some point.
But, its just doesn't seem fair.
He just had another son.
I mean, his son isn't even 2 years old yet.
I know people say not to question you because you don't make mistakes.
I get that.
Really.
I do.
But do you think you can take another look at his situation.
Maybe there's another option.
I don't know what I'm saying.
I don't want him to be in pain
Can you give a doctor a divine idea of a new treatment?
Maybe?
I don't know.
I really wish I could get in my car, or on a plane or something
and go to Selma, Alabama and go spend a week with him.
I don't even get to see him much any more.
*sigh*
Ok, I'm going to end it here.
I know everyone else is trying to talk to you too.
Even though it may not seem like it,
I do love you and recognize you as God.
In the words of my granny, I know who butters my bread...LOL
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Untitled
I don't know why I'm in such a solemn mood...but its what came out so here is a little piece of me that I'd like to share with you...with love
peace n sunshine
--
don't stand over me wailing
and please don't tell lies
don't sit in your house doing nothing
to say you miss my smile.
don't fret about the things you could've done
if you'd known there was such little time.
don't hold me back from leaving this life
when my time has come.
cherish the moments we shared
my new life has just begun.
this is my plea
and I leave it with thee.
its too much, you may say
for me to ask these things.
don't cry?
smile and laugh?
how?
when with each thought of me
you feel pain
reminding you that no longer am I here.
hopefully I've made peace with my maker
and am resting at ease.
so if you do anything:
party
Laugh
Love
Have Peace
when you remember me.
peace n sunshine
--
don't stand over me wailing
and please don't tell lies
don't sit in your house doing nothing
to say you miss my smile.
don't fret about the things you could've done
if you'd known there was such little time.
don't hold me back from leaving this life
when my time has come.
cherish the moments we shared
my new life has just begun.
this is my plea
and I leave it with thee.
its too much, you may say
for me to ask these things.
don't cry?
smile and laugh?
how?
when with each thought of me
you feel pain
reminding you that no longer am I here.
hopefully I've made peace with my maker
and am resting at ease.
so if you do anything:
party
Laugh
Love
Have Peace
when you remember me.
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